'There's No Right or Wrong Decision': Quotes from Mothers Making Unconventional Choices

A few takeaways from a new podcast celebrating the different choices mothers make.

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When you become a mother, there is no shortage of opinions, good wishes, and judgements around the choices you make. While perhaps well-intended (or perhaps sometimes not), all this input makes women continuously question their own choices to do things in a different way.

Sri Bodanapu, a mother of one spirited two-year-old son, is attempting to highlight these choices and celebrate the ones that might seem unconventional to some listeners with her podcast, Big Little Choices.

For the women in her podcast, these choices include questioning the status quo and having the courage to say what they think is best for themselves. Each story exemplifies that there is no right or wrong choice (while being responsible, of course)—there is simply the best choice for each woman and her family. It’s the choice that allows everyone to thrive.

Here are some of the best quotes from Big Little Choices on motherhood and the decisions we make that allow us to do motherhood in our most authentic ways.

When I look back, the only regret I will have is that of not spending time with my loved ones. So in some ways, this was a simple choice. Ultimately, you are only answerable to yourself, so you don’t want to have the regret of ‘I wish I had done things differently.’ You can do it differently, and you have the power to make that change. Find the courage to go ahead and do it.
— Anjali on quitting her job, packing her bags, and traveling with her two young kids and spending more time with her parents.
There really is no right or wrong decision. There are just different decisions. Try to embrace the concept that you can take an unconventional course in life and that it will work out. Try to work through that fear in the beginning and know that once you process that, things will fall into place and work out well.
— Anna on choosing to make the unconventional choice of going to college when she was 38 years old.
I think it’s a matter of shifting your perspective on what family means. I feel like I have family—my husband and I are family, our extended family and I are family, our friends and their kids are our family. So, I don’t feel as though us not having a child means that we don’t have family. We absolutely do, and I feel that very strongly.
— Sheila on her decision not to have children.
Why does a child need to read or learn two plus two when they are four? Why can’t they start reading or adding when they are seven or eight? The standardized education system is a one-size-fits-all, and that doesn’t work for everyone.” On giving up her medical career, “One life is not enough for any of us, and we have to make choices of what we ultimately want. I was conscious about whether I wanted to work and further my career, for more ‘me time,’ more social time, or more time with my kids, so I know them as well as I do. When my youngest leaves the house and I’m 50, I still have a lot of time to do all these things that I missed when I was younger, but I can’t hang out with my kids then because they will be gone.
— Neha on homeschooling her three kids.
Too often a lot of women hold themselves back by having debates in their head and turning down opportunities before asking for help. I would have never been able to follow my passion if I hadn’t had the support of my family members. Sometimes you have to be little bit selfish and put your needs first, put certain things aside, and prioritize things that really matter.
— Joyce on asking for help in order to pursue her own passions.
Your job is to lean into and accept your choices. If you’ve made this choice (of adoption), you have to commit to it and live it, come what may. It is a mix of acceptance, control, choice, and flexibility. But for the life that we’ve been given (and chosen), I am so grateful.
— Karen on adopting her two daughters.
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